Dr Ruth Westheimer - How To Have Good Sex
MODERATOR: Do you have any specific tips to get the fun back into the bedroom?
RUTH: Yes. Try these:
A little bit of red wine -- not too much.
Kick boredom out of your bedroom.
Watch some sexually explicit movies.
Go for a walk.
Do something you have never done before.
Pull your car into a lover's lane; watch that no police are coming.
Use your fantasy.
Good luck!
MEMBER QUESTION: I have been divorced and am just starting to get back into dating. What should I know about the modern dating and sex scene?
RUTH: First of all, never to go to bed on the first date. First form a relationship. Make sure that you know that there's no other woman in his life. Make sure you know a lot about him -- not all, but a lot. And then just enjoy it. Don't try to be the best lover in the world -- just enjoy it. Don't ask him about his past experiences and don't tell him about yours; just enjoy that there is a new person in your life.
MEMBER QUESTION: My husband says I'm oversexed because I want to make love three times a week compared to his whenever, that I like to hold hands when out and be touchy feely.
RUTH: First of all, have sex with him once a week if that's what he likes, the other two times bring yourself to orgasm. If the touchy feeling is not to his liking, do what the Chinese do, in terms of self-massage, Tai Chi -- but not in public. And smile about the difference in both your likings.
MEMBER QUESTION: Our interests have grown apart. Can we still have a good sexual relationship when the rest of our relationship seems to have faded into routine?
RUTH: I could not answer that. I would have to talk to you both separately. In my office, I talk to a couple first together, then separately, where I get a picture of what the story is.
MODERATOR: What is the bedrock of a good sexual relationship?
RUTH: Communication. And humor. And a zest for life.
MODERATOR: You certainly have zest for life! Is there anything else you'd like to share with us today?
RUTH: Your questions were good. My answers were not bad, either. And we'll make another date for another session. I like working with you!